Starting Again

Starting Again

We all hate starting over – at least I do, so I assume everyone else does. Even my kids hate starting again. Because usually we’re starting over because we got something wrong. And if there’s anything worse that starting over, it’s admitting that I’ve gotten something wrong.

I often have to remind myself of my favorite teaching phrase for my kids. “If you’re not making mistakes, you’re not learning”. My daughter gets frustrated because she has to re-start a division problem that she just got all wrong. My middle child really doesn’t want to try to read that word for the 5th time. And my toddler simply does not want to attempt putting that there one more time.

But I’m the same. I would honestly prefer that my banana creme pie didn’t turn out as soup the first time. I figured out why, it’s some chemical breakdown of the corn starch if you cook it too much. But it turned out right the second time. I just had to try again.

I’ve watched my kids refuse to try something because they were afraid of failure. I’ve failed to try things because I’m afraid of failure. And I hate starting over.

But, like I tell my kids, starting over is how we learn. If I’m getting it all right all the time then I’m not growing, and I’m not learning, and I’m not getting any better at anything. I’m just doing what I already know.

Truth be told, most great successes, have a string of failures before them. Most of the time, before someone succeeds at something they have to start over again and again. Thomas Edison is famous for saying “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work”. He started over so many times, and eventually succeeded.

One thing I’ve been working to teach my kids is to not be afraid of starting over. Go, try, make the mistake, take what you’ve learned, try again. Each time you do this you’ve learned something and you’ve increased your chances of getting it right the next time.

Of course, this means that I have to be an example and try new things, and try new things again.

So far this year, I’ve learned how to NOT make a banana creme pie and I’ve learned how to make a banana creme pie. Now if I could just figure out a good sausage gravy and biscuits…

What’s something you’ve had to start again this year?

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(13) Comments

  • K. Lee Banks
    05 Mar 2017

    I’m glad you figured out the banana cream pie! Sounds delicious and now I want some! 😉

    I have had a few “do overs” – from surviving a fire that destroyed everything in 1985 – to getting remarried – to changing careers, going from working “out there” to working from home.

    I think one of my biggest “starting again” moments will be happening soon as I become Dr. Banks with my EdD degree – and refine my career focus once again.

  • Star Traci
    01 Mar 2017

    I struggle with very similar problems. I know failure should not stop me but I hate it. I’m glad you found how NOT to make banana crème so now you can make it right. You are right about modeling for your kids – good job, mom!
    🙂
    Traci

  • Alicia
    01 Mar 2017

    Every day is a new lesson and new beginning – a chance to start new.

  • Brandy
    01 Mar 2017

    I feel like I’m starting over every day, we just got to keep on keeping on!!

    • admin
      01 Mar 2017

      I feel like that so many days!

  • Kristi
    24 Feb 2017

    Ah… starting over. Would like to think it’s always about a fresh start but usually more about perspective and I have been working on perspective more this year. Trying to look at things in a healthy way.

    • admin
      01 Mar 2017

      True, it really is all about your perspective.

  • Melissa
    23 Feb 2017

    It’s so hard to balanxe everything but is definitely important to know when to start fresh!

  • Bill S
    22 Feb 2017

    So important to recognize when you need to start over! It can be something hard as an adult to realize and to deal with

  • Audrey McClelland
    22 Feb 2017

    I had to start my commitment over to balancing work and home all over again. I let it get out of whack. AGAIN. =/

    • admin
      22 Feb 2017

      I’m constantly having to re-do this! Schedules and commitments change and then I find that they’ve taken over, again!

  • Jennifer
    22 Feb 2017

    I’ve had to get back to living a more healthy lifestyle. I’ve been playing fast and loose with my diet these days.

    • admin
      22 Feb 2017

      That can be so hard to keep up with!

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